Never admit you are wrong

Never do, never do.
Admit not, whatever you do.
Being wrong is a sin,
in this world of righteousness.
Pretend, my friend, always pretend.

For if you do, admit to one wrong,
they will put all your rights in that box.
They will say you’re wrong in all,
when you were right in being strong-
strong even in admitting your folly.

But what shall one sad soul like me do,
I cannot say, “I was right” when I was not.
I cannot say, “I was wrong” when I was not.
So, I suppose, I shall remain forever so,
wrong in being right
and right in being wrong.

22 comments

  1. Emanuel SΓ‘nchez · March 30, 2014

    Quite the dichotomy huh! Very good!

    • anumshafique · March 31, 2014

      Thank you Emanuel! πŸ™‚

      • Emanuel SΓ‘nchez · April 1, 2014

        You’re welcome πŸ™‚

  2. ebmellow · March 30, 2014

    How true. To have the strength to not care what people think, to not wear a mask, and to be the bad person for it ❀

    • anumshafique · March 31, 2014

      Aah alas, such strength is not found in the right places and found too abundantly in the wrong. Thank you so much for reading ebmellow. πŸ™‚

      • ebmellow · March 31, 2014

        Thank you for putting that truth out there!

  3. drewdog2060drewdog2060 · March 30, 2014

    This is so profound. You have hit the nail on the head here Anum. On a lighter note I remember a house master at my school who used to say “I’m always right even when I’m wrong”! I wish I could claim the credit for having come up with that one!

    • anumshafique · March 31, 2014

      Thank you, as always Kevin.
      LOL, if your house master kept that up, he may become a very good dictator one day. πŸ˜‰ LOL

  4. fergusandthedruid · March 30, 2014

    Sometimes I have to make the choice of if I would rather be right, or happy. I’ve struggled with pride all my life, but sometimes I swallow it and just nod my head for the sake of keeping people in my life who I love, who are obviously wrong about some things. I value truth very highly, so much I’ve made an idol of it, and demonized people who are deceptive. White lies have become a part of life, and much of human communication, is less than completely forthright, especially with women, who often communicate on subtle levels and say the opposite of what they mean (like when they are angry and say they want their significant other to leave them alone, often times they really want to be pursued and be shown the health of the relationship is so important it will be fought for… sometimes they do just want to be left alone though).

    Sometimes when people are upset they are immature and stubborn, and very close-minded about the facts, and one has to wonder sometimes if it’s really worth arguing a point with them if it’s going to push them away. There are more important things in life than always being right.

    Humanity is inherently flawed, and we are often blind to our own blindness, seeing things from a finite viewpoint. I would rather give ground and accept blame, or accept mutual blame in relationship, then keep track of who’s wrong more often, and not risk becoming so logical that I become someone no one wants to be with, who lacks kindness and compassion, even if that means surrendering my desire to be right about everything and have it be known.

    I don’t know where you are coming from in your poem exactly, if it’s completely from the heart or vicariously written like a lot of people sometimes write things from the viewpoints of others, but I assure you, you will be happier in life, not needing to be right in everything and not needing to be seen as right in everything. It pushes people away, and leads to much unhappiness. I’m 27 and I’ve had many unhappy years, chasing the idol of honesty to the point where I confuse honesty with transparency. I don’t know you, but your poem reminded me of how I used to think and live, and at least for me, it didn’t ultimately bring me self-satisfaction, it lead to being a lone wolf who had no worthwhile friendships in life. I am still recovering, and still have difficulty making and keeping worthwhile friendships, and have frequently cut people out of my life for their not measuring up to my personal standards of rightness, integrity and trustworthiness, particularly those who call themselves Christians. It’s a shame that through so much of it, I’ve been so blind to my own blindness, and wanted to be right and believed I was right about things, no matter what anyone else said, because I needed to be right to feel secure and like I measured up as a better man with higher standards than anyone else expected of me. It’s a vicious cycle, pride, and comparisons between one’s self and others.

    We’re all fallen, and damaged in some way, and are wrong about something, we can’t be right about everything we think we’re definitely right about all the time. We’re all sinners, and it doesn’t really matter who is a worse sinner. It seems like it should matter, but as a Christian, I need to compare myself to Christ, and see I’m fallen and imperfect compared to Him, and not measure myself up against others who wrong me. It’s just not worth the loss of joy, and the destruction it causes to relationships.

    I don’t know if you have a personal religious faith, and I’m not meaning to preach, just saying, if you can take anything from what I’ve said from my personal experience, then I will be glad I took the opportunity to share with you. Later stranger… by the way, excellently written poem though, you made points and said things about the human condition that many relate to but don’t admit to, that invoked a carefully considered response from me πŸ™‚

    • anumshafique · March 31, 2014

      Dear fergusandthedruid,

      Thank you for that “carefully considered response” and for reading and liking my poem. The lessons you have learnt from life are indeed commendable. At the young age of 27, many people are still drowned in their own ego and running after proving themselves. I am in complete agreement with your point of view about no one being perfect and focusing on the faults of the self rather than those of others. My poem reflects just that concept. It looks at a person who is being forced to project his/her wrong as a right, because the world does not let-live the people who accept their mistakes and come out straight. To admit that he/she is wrong is almost considered a sin. But that person is unable to project a lie, because deep down the guilt will be too much to bear.

      As you wisely mentioned, to reject people for their lies is like hitting your own foot with a hammer and claim that it was what you needed, because you will end up rejecting everyone. People lie all the time, because they are forced to do so. Societal pressures prohibit them to be uncool, be less knowledgeable and of course be wrong about something. When people are unable to project themselves as cool, all-knowing and right all the time, they are forced to either be loners or liars. And naturally, most chose the second option. At least, that is how it has been in my experience. :/

      Thank you, once again, for such an insightful comment. πŸ™‚

      Take care.
      ~Anum

      • fergusandthedruid · March 31, 2014

        No problem, thanks for sharing an awesome poem and commenting back a likewise insightful response! I so enjoy it when people do that on wordpress, often times for lack of time or interest, my long comments I’ve liked to leave since opening my blog last August, are met with single sentence thank you’s for reading. I totally understand when that happens, especially when they are posts with tons of comments, but it’s always nice to have reciprocal exchanges in online communication when another has the time and interest, especially when they are respectful and harmonious. πŸ™‚

        You take care as well
        – Ry

        • anumshafique · March 31, 2014

          No problem Ry, the pleasure was all mine! πŸ™‚ Hope to see you around in the internet world. πŸ™‚

  5. leefeller · March 30, 2014

    Very nicely done, I see the connotation to be stereotyping, a most interesting approach with biting truth.

  6. alghaumon · March 30, 2014

    TOO well DONE. This goes along with the “thought” that:
    ANGELS and DEMONS
    ALL ‘look’ the SAME…
    the DIFFERENCE IS,

    DEMONS ask “what is PLAUSIBLE…
    ANGELS ask “WHAT IS laudable.

    Mon Se’
    “D”

    • anumshafique · March 31, 2014

      Thank you so much! And I think the words you shared are wiser and more beautiful than mine and they go well beyond what I had said. Thank you very much for sharing them with me. πŸ™‚

      • alghaumon · March 31, 2014

        You found them in my mind. I just had to let you know how good a “job” YOUR works… WORK!
        “D”

  7. hanginoutwithGod · April 2, 2014

    This is so true — and very, very nicely executed.

    • anumshafique · April 4, 2014

      Thank you so very, very much! πŸ˜€

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