Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Whoever said that "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" did not take into account the human capacity to forget.
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13 comments

  1. Victo Dolore · November 18, 2014

    Amen!

  2. Dormis Aeternitas · November 18, 2014

    they also forgot to factor in when ‘neglect becomes our ally’…

  3. zdunno03 · November 18, 2014

    Now ain’t that the truth.

    • anumshafique · November 18, 2014

      Are you sure?

      • zdunno03 · November 18, 2014

        It depends on I think on the depth of the relationship to begin with. For longstanding ones, distance does not diminish the feelings but for new relationships, time and distance does not help. At least that has been what I have observed.

        • anumshafique · November 19, 2014

          That is a wonderful thought. I wish we would have the strength to respect all relationships as demanded by their depth and sanctity. 🙂

  4. drewdog2060drewdog2060 · November 18, 2014

    You are right. I would add that when recollection strikes, the person doing the forgetting can feel acutely guilty. As a dog owner I am fascinated by the difference between how a dog’s mind works in comparison to that of a human. We humans tend to think of absent friends and lovers. Dogs (despite their genuine attachment to their owners) do not, on the whole dwell on them during absences. Provided a dog is cared for (has companionship and love) it will be content and not mope around. However, on the return of it’s master it will often jump up, tail wagging furiously, obviously delighted to see them. Dogs don’t forget. They do, however live in the moment rather than dwelling on absent friends.

    • anumshafique · November 18, 2014

      I have felt that acute feeling of guilt many times. It is a stark reminder of the human capacity to forget what is not in front of one’s eyes.

      Dogs are known to be very loyal in their relationship with humans. I wonder if that loyalty is born out of their capacity to remember even in absence. 🙂

  5. Ali · November 18, 2014

    “Out of sight out of mind” may be closer to the truth.

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